Lies, Lies, Lies
By Crystal Tsui
Lying is something that we are predisposed to do from the time we are born. Infants cry sometimes for no reason at all except for attention. Caregivers would see if the infant wants to eat or have its diaper changed, but in most cases, infants only want to get the caregiver’s attention. That is the earliest form of a lie and we don’t even recognize it.
As adults, we lie all the time and it’s usually conscious. If we want to get out of doing something, we lie to get ourselves out of the situation. For example, if we want to get out of going to work, we would make something up like we’re sick or our stomachs hurt. We also lie with friends and colleagues too. If we were asked “does this outfit make me look fat,” we would likely to say “no” in order for the other person to feel better and to keep the peace.
In the Merriam Webster Dictionary, lying is defined as “to make an untrue statement with intent to deceive.” However, when we speak, we can omit certain information that leaves the recipient an impression of something other than what we intended.
So, what constitutes a lie?
- A statement must be made
- The statement must be untrue or an inaccurate description of reality
- Speaker has the intention to deceive
- The recipient believes the false statement to be true
Types of people who lie the most are:
- Young adults
Although you may spot these people in your life, consider why they may be lying before making assumptions about the person.
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