Grief: Ways to Cope
By Toniann Seals
The death of a loved one requires coping skills that not many people know how to develop. In this case, grief is the feeling of sadness and loss in relation to someone no longer in your life.
Ways to cope:
- Join a support group
- You may find comfort in being around others who can relate to your pain and experience.
- Be open
- Try not to bottle up your feelings. Express them and address them as soon as needed.
- Accept your differences
- Do not worry about how long your grieving process is or if you are reacting properly. Everyone grieves differently and it is all up to the individual.
- Take care of yourself
- Try not to neglect your hobbies, hygiene or health because these will help you through the day.
- Seek counseling
- If you feel that it is difficult handling the grieving process on your own, contact a psychologist or psycho therapist who can help you overcome your loss.
If you or someone you know is having a difficult time grieving speak with one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, and psychotherapists. Contact us at our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 respectively to set up an appointment. For more information, visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/.
By: Stephanie Osuba
Dreams are one of the phenomena of the human experience in that we are still not sure why they happen. One proposed explanation is that is how the brain is able to process all the emotions, information, and memories that happened throughout the day; day-residue. In fact, there are numerous researches that indicate that most of our dream content is heavily influenced by our conscious state. Most of the characters in dreams are recognizable by name and autobiographical memories such as dreaming of pregnancy and birth while pregnant are just a few examples. However, this doesn’t always immediately happen. Sometimes there is a dream lag where something that happened a week prior comes up in a dream. This could be an important aspect of memory consolidation.
Dreams also allow us to confront things that are beyond our capability when awake. Cases in which people that are born paralyzed dream of running and swimming, deaf people reporting hearing, and other phenomena further prove that dreams can be a sort of virtual reality that promotes survival and growth. Dreaming can also be an outlet in which people who have experienced trauma and grief can come to terms with and process their emotions. These experiences are often replayed in dreams and manifest in a number of different ways (e.g. nightmares with PTSD and receiving messages from a dead family member with the bereaved).
Some common dream subjects include:
- School (studying or test taking)
- Being chased
- Sexual fantasies
- Being late
- Dreaming of someone dead being alive and vice versa
- Being physically attacked
Source: Breus, M. J., Ph.D. (n.d.). Why We Dream What We Dream. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sleep-newzzz/201501/why-we-dream-what-we-dream
If you or someone you know needs help regarding sleep and dreams, please contact our psychotherapy offices in New York or New Jersey to talk to one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, please visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/.
Self-harm is a way of expressing feelings that can’t be put into words by deliberately harming the surface of your own body, such as cutting or burning yourself. It’s the release of pain and tension one feels inside. It’s a distraction from overwhelming feelings and emotions, from no emotion at all, and can be used as a way to punish oneself. It’s a way to feel control.
Dear readers that self-injure,
Maybe you feel ashamed, maybe you think no one would understand, maybe you think you won’t be left alone again, and quite honestly you might be scared of hearing that you’re crazy. But hiding who you are and what you feel is a heavy burden. We have all been there in one way or another. Truthfully, the secrecy and guilt of self-harm affects your relationships with your friends and family members and the way you feel about yourself. It can make you feel even more lonely, worthless, and trapped. But you are not crazy, and you are definitely not alone.
|Why You Should Stop:
- The relief is short lived.
- Keeping the secret is a lonely and a difficult journey.
- You can hurt yourself badly, on purpose or not, and misjudge the damage you’ll do.
- Those who care for you, even those who are unaware of the situation, would be broken to know it.
How to Rid Yourself of the Mechanism:
- Communicate with somebody you can confide in. A friend, a family member, a teacher, etc.
- Give yourself time to heal.
- Seek out professional help and begin to both work with and understand your emotions.
- Sprint, draw, paint, sing, scream, run, cry, and do whatever you can to make your impulse go away in that moment.
How to Help Someone that Does Self-harm:
- Don’t judge.
- Respect the person’s time needed to heal.
- Offer support, even if you might not completely understand.
- Help find therapy, and offer to help reach out to more adults and professionals.
By Isabelle Kreydin
| If you or someone you know is self-harming and needs help, please contact our psychotherapy offices in New York or New Jersey to talk to one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, please visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/.