Suicide: Fighting Suicidal Thoughts

By: Sally Santos

If you are someone who is suffering with suicidal thoughts, you should be aware that most people that have attempted to commit suicide but did not succeed feel relieved that they did not succeed in ending their life. When things get tough sometimes your mind starts racing and you feel overwhelmed with emotions. Suicide doesn’t just happen on its own, it is led by many social risk factors some of them being:

  • Gender
  • Age
  • Marital status
  • Employment status
  • Lack of social support

Many people who have attempted to commit suicide will say that they were experiencing very intense feelings of hopelessness. They felt like they had lost control of their lives and that nothing is going to get better. But that is not true. In that moment it may feel hopeless but there are ways to help you feel better. You do not have to feel like you have to fight your battles alone. In order to steer away from those thoughts it is important to keep in mind a plan just in case your thoughts become too overwhelming. It is recommended to make a list of all the positive things that you have in your life such as:

  • Read a favorite book or listen to your favorite music
  • Write down positive things about yourself or the favorite aspects of your life
  • Try to get a goodnights sleep
  • Have a list of people you trust to call in case you want to talk

Always note that you can discuss how you have been feeling with a healthcare provider. They can provide you with the advice and help that you need in order to achieve a faster and healthy recovery. Lastly, as mentioned in an article in Psychology Today it’s important to “remember that you have not always felt this way and that you will not always feel this way”. The emotions and thoughts that you have now are temporary not permanent.



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Suicide and Mental Health Issues in College Students

By Samantha Glosser

Many students expect their college years to be the best years of their lives. They will achieve great academic successes, make life-long friends, go to the best parties, and enjoy living away from their parents. This idea is emphasized all around us in movies, TV shows, and social media posts. However, this is a glorified image of college that may not be the case for all students. In fact, according to a recent study by the American College Health Association, about 1 in every 11 college students have attempted suicide; 1 in 5 students has considered suicide and 1 in 5 students engage in self-harm.

How could these statistics be true when students are told that they are living in the best years of their lives? As it turns out, the college years are filled with numerous different stressors. These stressors include academic and career difficulties, intimate relationships, finances, personal and family health problems, issues with personal appearance, and death of family members and friends, just to name a few. 3 out of every 4 college students have experienced at least one of these stressors within the last year. These stressors are highly associated with mental health diagnoses, self-harm, and suicidality. The societal pressure that college should be the best years of your life can also be contributing to these statistics. If a student feels alone or thinks that no one else is experiencing similar feelings, it can push them closer towards self-harm and suicide.

If you or someone you know appears to be at immediate risk of suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. If you are not at immediate risk, but appear to be suffering from suicidal thoughts or other mental health issues, the licensed psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, and psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy can assist you. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, visit


Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

If your daily life is hindered as a result of your obsessions and compulsions, you may have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (abbreviated as OCD). A person with OCD experiences frequent upsetting thoughts (aka obsessions) that they try to combat and control by performing ritualistic behaviors (aka compulsions). It is important to note that healthy people who do not have OCD can also have rituals, but the difference in people with OCD is that their rituals cause them great distress and interrupt their daily life. Examples of common rituals that people with OCD perform include excessive hand washing, locking and unlocking their locks multiple times before leaving, skin picking, pulling out hair (trichotillomania) and combing their hair compulsively; as you can see, these compulsions can clearly hinder one’s daily life. These rituals, which are repetitive and uncontrollable, are carried out in order to get brief relief from the anxiety one’s compulsions can cause.

Although these repetitive behaviors occur as a result of one’s obsessions, scientists are not certain what the exact causes of OCD are. However, they do hypothesize that genetics do play a major role in the development of this disorder and possibly environmental stressors as well. OCD typically develops in the childhood/teenage years, as most people who have it are diagnosed by the age of 19. And although OCD tends to be a lifelong disorder if left untreated, the exact course varies. Most people do control it with the proper treatment. Since it is co-morbid with other disorders such as eating disorders, anxiety disorders or depression, one can also find great relief by getting the co-occurring disorder treated as well. As far as treatments for OCD go, similar to the treatments available and recommended for many other disorders, medications and the use of psychotherapy work best. If you suspect you or someone you know has OCD, it is urgent that you contact a mental health specialist to first determine whether or not you or your loved one has it, and second to find the best treatment option available.

If you believe that you are a loved one has or may have OCD, the psychiatrists, psychologists, psychiatric nurse practitioners or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling can help you. Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices respectively at (201)-368-3700 or (212)-722-1920 to set up an appointment. Visit for more information.


By: Shivani J. Patel