Month: December 2023

Self Esteem: Inadequacy-Breaking the Chains of “Not Good Enough”

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                      Self Esteem: Inadequacy-Breaking the Chains of “Not Good Enough”

By: Lorentliz Sosa

With the New Year coming, people start thinking about what should be their New Year resolution. These thoughts may make people to start analyzing themselves and their lives, leading to the question “Am I even good enough”?

Inadequacy is not being good enough. The feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness can be challenging and painful. These thoughts can make it difficult for a person to feel motivated, perform well, and maintain a healthy relationship. These feelings can come from childhood trauma or even workplace harassment.

People who feel inadequate may also experience:

  1. Fear of Rejection
  2. Low self-worth
  3. Feelings of powerlessness
  4. Reluctance to accept affection from others
  5. Anxiety
  6. Self-criticism

In order to recover, it’s important to work with a therapist to explore the source of your negative feelings. Through therapy people discover more about themselves, such as their strengths and their weaknesses, while also helping increase their self-confidence.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or has seasonal depression please contact our psychotherapy offices in New York or New Jersey to talk to one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, please visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/

Source: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/inadequacy

Depression During The Holidays

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Depression during the Holidays

By: Diane Ulloa

Social isolation is one of the biggest predictors of depression and social media has made it so you can watch all your friends and family celebrate from thousands of miles away. According to the American Psychological Association around 38% of people surveyed said their stress unfortunately increased during the holiday season which can lead to physical illness, depression, anxiety, and substance misuse. It is very common to experience depression or anxiety during the holiday season due to the loss of a family member. Stress also accompanies buying gifts, alongside with social anxiety that comes with extended family reunions. People battling with anxiety or depression can feel overwhelmed when they are met with the unrealistic expectations of the holiday season and with financial burdens that may come during this time.

To combat these obstacles, which get in the way of family fun, one can set realistic expectations of the holiday parties, and realistic expectations of one’s own self. You can do this by taking these steps:

  1. Pace yourself: Do not take on more responsibilities than you can handle and this can also be for food and drinking.
  2. Live and enjoy the present: don’t set yourself up for disappointment by comparing the good ol’ days of the past with the present.
  3. Try to find holiday activities that won’t strain your pockets: going on a drive to look at the beautiful lights in a nearby neighborhood, window shopping, and watching good holiday movies.
  4. Make time for yourself, and make time to take your mental health into account. Surrounding yourself with caring people that can understand your daily battles can be very beneficial.
  5. Be careful not to overspend: overspending can lead to depression or anxiety later on down the road.
  6. If you are lonely, try volunteering time to help others, this could be volunteering at your local place of worship or perhaps at a homeless shelter.

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or has seasonal depression please contact our psychotherapy offices in New York or New Jersey to talk to one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, please visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/

Sources: https://www.webmd.com/depression/holiday-depression-stress