I Want it Now! (Binge Eating)

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I Want it Now! (Binge Eating)

By Justina Hanna

There are two types of people- the people that can see a cupcake and say no, and the ones that no matter how hard they try, they always end up eating that cupcake. So what is the difference? Psychologists have found a link between impulse control and working memory – what keeps us focused and helps us to avoid distractions. Studies have shown that handicapped working memory is often positively correlated with handicapped impulse control. So, what if you have poor impulse control? Here are some things you can try:

  1. Know your triggers: These could be stress or boredom.
  2. Have a plan in place to defeat the impulse
  3. Make it hard for yourself to indulge in the impulse
  4. Replace it with a good habit
  5. Get social support and moral support if possible

If you believe that you or a loved one have impulse control problems the psychiatrists, psychologists, psychiatric nurse practitioners or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling can assist you. Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices of psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. Visit http://www.acenterfortherapy.com for more information.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-modern-time-crunch/201401/plan-breaking-those-bad-habits

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It Was Forever & Now It’s Over—Finding Yourself After a Breakup

By: Dariana Taveras

We all know what you’re thinking when you incessantly click through their Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter accounts in search of any clue or suggestions that maybe, just maybe, they’ll be open enough to want you back. You swipe through old pictures of your relationship attempting to figure out when things started to change. You wonder if perhaps some other factor played into your breakup other than the reality that maybe your partner lost interest over time or was not suited to be the partner you hoped he or she would be. The following steps might help you through a difficult breakup:

  1. Stay away—any relationship is a two-way street and you shouldn’t and CAN’T convince anyone to love you or stay with you. If your partner no longer wishes to be in a relationship with you, please do yourself a favor and let them go!
  2. Do NOT make excuses— If they genuinely hurt you, you cannot pretend that their behavior is acceptable. Remember that you cannot apologize to yourself on their behalf, only your ex can do that.
  3. Write it all down— what you’re feeling and why you think you’re feeling that way.
  4. Change your environment—It serves as the facilitator for your emotional feelings. If something at home or in the places that you frequent reminds you of your ex, perhaps attempt to remove, redecorate or rearrange how those particular items are set up. Also, don’t be afraid to try new places!
  5. FOCUS ON YOURSELF– Now is your chance to really tune in to who you are. Indulge in new hobbies, spend time with your loved ones, and realize that you have the potential to find happiness within yourself.

If you are concerned that you or anyone you care about may be having relationship issues, the licensed professionals at Arista Counseling and Psychotherapy can assist you. They have successfully helped many with marriage, pre-marital, and relationship issues. Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices of psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment.  Visit http://www.acenterfortherapy.com for more information.

If You Haven’t Already Done So, Forgive Yourself

By: Dariana Taveras

Relationship Problems: Why Forgiving is the First Step

For thinking that you could be the one to save the pieces of whatever is left of your relationship…for holding on tightly despite the currents that are attempting to knock you down…for not taking responsibility for whatever it is that you felt like you did to ruin your relationship. Most importantly, forgive yourself for YOURSELF.

You may think that you want to forgive yourself for the sake of your partner. However, the reality is that the only way to work through your current issues is by acknowledging what went wrong and concentrating on repairing it. The idea is to shift away from self-inflicted excuses and punishments. Your relationship still has an opportunity to be saved if you are willing to be accountable for your actions and wish to work towards a common goal. If your goal is to remain by each other’s side, then the first inevitable step is forgiveness. Satisfaction within your relationship may significantly improve if you begin to have fewer negative feelings towards yourself and your current situation.

If you are concerned that you or anyone you care about may be having relationship issues, the licensed professionals at Arista Counseling and Psychotherapy can assist you. They have successfully helped many with marriage, pre-marital, and relationship issues. Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices of psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment.  Visit http://www.acenterfortherapy.com for more information.

How Heavy is Your Emotional Baggage?

By: Dariana Taveras

4 Steps to Help You Unload Damaging Feelings

If we were to unload our baggage, what would we find? Yes, we may find toiletries, pre-coordinated outfits, a pair of trendy sunglasses, a few pairs of shoes, and maybe even some jewelry to match… But, what about the nonmaterial items we stuff beneath the surface of our belongings?

For instance, some of us carry the weight of missed birthdays, unreturned phone calls, lost friendships, failed relationships, or even missed opportunities because of procrastination. Others carry challenges passed over because of low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. We may carry regrets that prevent us from moving forward with our lives. There may be nostalgia about particular broken friendships with people we have known for years on end. We go back and forth trying to figure out how to most effectively make sense of relationships, responsibilities, expectations, resentments, and frustration that exist day to day. Before we know it, we slip further and further down a slope of suffering until our hearts are heavy with sorrow and our minds are cluttered with distress. Often times we do not realize how quickly this may escalate and hinder our ability to find happiness.

If you feel affected by a heavy load of unresolved feelings and emotions, it may be helpful to consider the following:

1. Tune into what triggers you to hold on to your distress. This requires self-reflection and insight that will help you move towards identifying the source of your problems!

2. Once the source has been identified, take small steps to move forward towards something more beneficial and personally purposeful.

3. Do not allow the triggers of your emotional turmoil to influence the way you view the world. Change the way you view your circumstances into more proactive and positive perceptions.

4. Be patient with your endeavors. Things do not magically transform overnight. The best things in life take time!

If you are concerned that you or anyone you care about may be negatively affected by stress or anxiety, the licensed professionals at Arista Counseling&Psychotherapy can assist you.  Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices of psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment.  Visit http://www.acenterfortherapy.com for more information.