By: Estephani Diaz
Anger is a natural, normal emotion that everyone feels, however, our responses to anger can differ from person to person. Anger allows us to express the negative feelings we have on the inside about a specific person, object, or event. It is also a survival tactic response to threats we may encounter. The good thing about anger, is that in some cases, it motivates us to find solutions to our problems and express what we have bottled up inside of us.
Our anger can get the best of us when we are yelling, throwing objects, or even getting into fights with others. When angry, we tend to respond aggressively. Our heart rate, blood pressure and adrenaline levels all go up. In our society, there are laws and social norms that limit us on how far we can lash out. It is our job to learn how to control our own anger and our own actions, because we cannot control how other people act.
Anger management is used to identify what makes us angry and learn new positive ways to cope with our anger. The overall goal is to keep calm in a stressful situation without lashing out at others or causing harm to anyone. Below are some steps you can take in order to cool down next time you are feeling angry:
- Relaxation: Breathe deeply and slowly
- Count to ten
- Give yourself space from what is making you angry
- Take a personal day off
- Relaxing exercises: yoga
- Use humor
If you or someone you know is looking for anger management, please contact our psychotherapy offices in New York or New Jersey to talk to one of our licensed professional psychologists, psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling & Psychotherapy. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively, at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment. For more information, please visit http://www.counselingpsychotherapynjny.com/.