By: Adrienne Sangalang
Certain families may be better at dealing with or even hiding issues than other families. Regardless, there is no such thing as a perfect family. For adolescents, the summer is always known as the time of the year when they are spending more time with friends than family. However, this lack of time with the family can make a present disconnect even wider between parents and their adolescent.
If parents and adolescents find themselves struggling to understand each others’ issues, they should use the summer to repair the damage before their busy schedules start up again in September. Vacations are exciting, but do not necessarily guarantee amends. Issues may actually worsen during family vacations, if not dealt with prior to leaving.
Instead of your adolescents always being outside of the house, recommend family activities such as a game night, outdoor BBQ or evening bonfire. These activities can help foster a healthy relationship. Adolescents will feel more inclined to tell you stories about their friends or ask you questions about your life if you take the time to foster a positive relationship. Share stories about your adolescence with your children to remind them that you were once a teenager. Keep in mind that your children may have your genes, but are not carbon copies of you and your partner. In other words, be open to their ideas and they’ll be open to yours.
If you are a parent in need of family therapy, the psychiatrists, psychologists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, social workers, or psychotherapists at Arista Counseling are here to help. Contact our Paramus, NJ or Manhattan, NY offices respectively at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment.
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