Maybe It May Be

By: Dariana Taveras

Is it indecision or obsessive doubting?

Should we have sent that text because we really wanted to make things right… or should we have waited for that individual to be the bigger person and apologize? Should we have wasted 45 minutes mindlessly scrolling through our News Feed, liking every picture and sharing that relevant blog post or… should we have gone to the gym instead? Should we search for a new job opportunity? Should we have saved some more money each week to someday buy the home of our dreams or should we continue to foolishly spend our money at the local bar? Should we apply to our dream university or perhaps chose a different career path? Should we have married our spouse or should we have waited for a better partner? Time and time again, the answer seems to be maybe. Maybe we should do this… or maybe we should have done that.

Occasionally, uncertainty revolves around the choices we make. We yearn to know what is coming next, leaving the unexpected quite unwelcome. We seem to have an overarching desire to know that the results we hope for will take effect.  In turn, we often tend to associate uncertainty with fear and hopelessness. We quickly begin to dread the unanticipated instead of embracing the potentially positive opportunities that may arise. Instead of merely being a matter of indecision, it may quickly turn out to be a form of obsessive doubting.

It is important to remember that within the unknown there may be an incredibly rich sea of options that allows a freedom of choices beyond our immediate recognition. The idea of “maybe” suggests that every single experience and situation may render endless possibilities. It is also possible that whatever circumstance we face will work out in our favor or bring new solutions. The key is to expand our minds so that we may truly embrace all that is or may be.

If you are concerned that you or anyone you care about may feel conflicted or riddled with indecisiveness or obsessive doubting, the licensed professionals at Arista Counseling&Psychotherapy can assist you.  Contact our Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan offices of psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists at (201) 368-3700 or (212) 722-1920 to set up an appointment.  Visit for more information.


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