Learning to Navigate Life Changes- Bergen County, NJ


By Elana Seidman

Change can be scary. Whether it’s positive changes such as getting married, having a child or graduating from school or negative changes such as the end of a relationship or losing a loved one, many people tend to feel overwhelmed, anxious or stressed when it comes to the thought of change. But why does change have to be so daunting?

Consider the following analogy; you step up to the swimming pool and dip your toe in. The water feels cold and for a brief moment you consider turning right around and sitting back down in your lounge chair. Then you remember that when you were sitting in your lounge chair you were hot and sweaty, so you decide to dive right in. The initial plunge is freezing, and perhaps for a moment the feeling of cold water takes your breath away, but as you rise to the surface and gauge your surroundings, the water seems to warm up and you begin to enjoy floating around comfortably in the refreshing pool. This is not because someone turned up the temperature in the pool, but rather because your body adjusted to the temperature.

Learning to adjust and embrace change, rather than reject and refrain from it are important traits that will come in handy when faced with life changes.

Here are a few thoughts on how to cope with change and appreciate that change is in fact a good thing:

  • Understand that the initial discomfort and unfamiliarity that comes along with change is only temporary. Expect discomfort, but also expect to adjust.
  • Accept that adjustment doesn’t happen overnight. While it may not happen right away, you will eventually become comfortable with your new surroundings. Learn to embrace this adjustment period rather than viewing it negatively.
  • Embrace the change and all the amazing things that come along with it. Face the transition with a positive attitude.

It is important to understand that for something new to happen, we must always experience a loss in another area of our life. We must all learn that change, as well as all the ups and downs that come along with it, is inevitable. If you or a love one is struggling to cope with recent life changes, contacting a mental health professional at Arista Counseling and Psychological Services in Bergen County, NJ or Manhattan, NY may be the first step. Contact us for a free phone consultation at 201-368-3700 in order to set up an appointment with one of our licensed therapists, counselors, psychologists, or psychiatrists. Help is just a phone call away!






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