While searching for the right psychologist or psychiatrist many people state they are looking for someone they will “click with”. Feeling a connection is very important to develop a trusting relationship with your therapist. In addition to having a strong rapport, there are other qualities to be aware of. In order to ensure you are receiving the most beneficial treatment, there are certain aspects to require from your clinician, and others to avoid.
Although a therapist is someone who is there for you, it is not someone you should become dependent upon. Recognize that your therapist should be teaching you independence, and how to continue improvement on your own once treatment has stopped. Proof of this comes from having a treatment plan—and one that eventually will come to and end due to the learned independence. It should be about learning to take the skills you work on in therapy, and gaining the ability to apply them on your own.
On the other hand there are certain red flags you may want to avoid in a clinician. Signs to be wary of include the following:
– Odd practices that go against scientifically accepted norms and methods
– Pushing of political, religious or social views
– Lack of training or degrees
– Talking down or preaching behavior
Finally, the line between professional relationship and friendship should not be blurry. No matter how close you feel to your counselor in session, the relationship should remain in the office. This of course means no socializing, and also includes keeping communication appropriate.
If you are seeking treatment and are in Bergen County, New Jersey, feel free to call us at 201-368-3700 to make an appointment with one of our own licensed professional counselors, therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists.